[HELP] My fiancé and I are not on the same page with our dog.

So my fiancé and I own an amazing dog. He's almost 4 years old. We love him and we are so happy to have him. Problem is due to a lot of stuff going on in our lives we have neglected to properly train him. We take great care of him and spoil him but we are often very busy so we let a lot of his bad behavior slide.We are selling our home and moving into a smaller apartment and it's on the 6th floor. Because of this he won't have the freedom of a doggy door and a lot of other things he's used to.We have owned him for less than a year and we have trained him to stay out of our room. I'm actually allergic to most cats and dogs and although I manage it with lots of lots of medicine I try to keep him off of our bed and couch so that I'm not rolling around when I sleep in his fur. I don't like that he can't be there us but for my own personal health I want to take all precautions I need.I don't want it to become an issue but lately my fiancé has been letting him on the couch and the bed. I don't mind and normally I don't say anything right away because I love seeing them together but then I remember I can't have him there and my fiancé says "Oh he's fine. He can come on for a second."What I think he fails to remember is that 1. I'm allergic and 2. and this is the biggie. He's poorly trained. I feel like if we can't even stick to two simple things we can't master any other training things. Like not jumping on guest or not dragging us when we walk him.I get that we are sort of sucking. We now have almost of the craziness in our busy lives sorted and we want to dedicate time to training our dog. Although we spoil him with love, treats and toys I feel like we are actually being shitty dog parents by letting just do as he pleases. Which in turns means he jumps on furniture, barks and jumps on people and sometimes when he's feeling like a little butt hole he will pee in the house. He's trained to go outside but if my fiancé and I step outside for a moment and don't take him with he pees inside sort of a like a "fuck you for leaving me" sort of thing.Anyway, what can I say to my fiancé so he understands that I'm not being mean. I'm trying to give our baby the best life ever! But it needs to work for all of us.Thanks! via /r/dogs http://ift.tt/2rqW1Ql