[Help] My wife and I share a dog, but he's a Momma's boy. How do I "let go" and stop letting things he does bother me?

Compared to most dogs I've known my beagle is extremely well behaved and the sweetest little dude in the world. Other than the occasional peeing inside/knocking over the trash cans (which fills me with a rage I didn't know could consume me), he's the best. However, he bonded closer to my wife because very shortly after we first adopted him I was away for Army training for 4 months. He's much closer to her than me. He follows her everywhere around the house, he pretty much ignores me when we both come home at the same time, and he listens to her commands better than mine. Even when I give him a command like "go lay down" when he's lingering too much around the dinner table, he will glance at her almost as to check if she agrees with the command before obeying. This at first hurts my feelings and then irritates me, but I understand that dogs are pack animals and that he sees my wife as the alpha and blah blah because she’s had 4 months solo bonding time with him before I got a chance to.Because of this I feel like every little annoying doggy behavior he does annoys the absolute shit out of me tenfold. Things like getting overly excited to go on a walk where he prances around with his tail furiously wagging and knocking into the walls and furniture, whining when excited when he recognizes where we're going on a car trip, staring at us while eating with that laser focus dogs do, snatching up food that falls on the floor, crowding the door when guests come over, and so on. These make me so mad I have to stop, look away, take a deep breath and focus on something else to reduce my anger.I'm not trying to assert myself as the rule-maker/alpha or any of that crap. I just want to learn how to not care anymore. I want to be able to love the dog the way I love my friend's dogs. Because whenever I’m over a friend's house and their dog misbehaves, I don’t care. I want to stop giving a shit when my dog doesn't listen to me or give a shit that I come home. I feel like it would drastically reduce the stress in my life. How can I "let go" and just learn to accept my relationship with my dog as it is. I don’t want to be mad at him for every slightly annoying thing he does anymore. via /r/dogs http://ift.tt/2s4kZs4